Me and my ex have a dog together, what do i do?
Question by socceric18: Me and my ex have a dog together, what do i do?
Me and my ex got a dog together, and he is the sweetest dog in the world. I have the dog now, but i’m considering getting rid of him. I love the dog but:
-He has hip dysplasia, possibly expensive down the line
-I travel for work a lot
-Its hard to find a place that allows dogs in the price range i can afford
-Neither of our families want to take the dog
-He has to be run a lot
-He reminds me of my ex (bitter sweet memories?)
Anyone gone through a similar situation. This is MY dog, i trained him (very well), but i need to move by the end of Jan, and i have no idea what to do.
My only two options in my mind will be to suck it up and keep him even if he can’t get out as much as he would like, or find a nice family to take him. Either way will be difficult on me. I’m not looking for guilt trips, i’m looking for objective advice. Thank you for the responses.
The ex cannot take the dog at her current living situation.
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Answer by Unique_Breed
you got the dog for better or worse live up to your responsibility
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You say you love the dog, but you obviously do not. If money is more important than the dog, enough for you to dump him, you should never have gotten a dog in the first place. Plan things ahead of time. Unfortunately, few peoples have the common sense to do so.
He is your responsibility. He is your dog. You need to be devoted to him until he lives out his natural life. Pets are not something we can get and throw away on whim. They are not disposable decorations.
Like everybody has said, the dog IS your responsibility. But you sound as if you’re pretty much resigned to giving him away.
If you truly can’t provide him a good home, you will want to ask trusted friends if they want to take the dog. If not, contact local no-kill shelters and be very honest about what’s wrong (for example, the hip dysplasia). Other than that, you might want to register with your local Freecycle and offer him up for a new home there. Many people would love a trained dog to become a part of their family.
well if ur not gona be home much its not fare on the dog if its alone most of the time so i would fina a good home, try to avoid puttig it in a shelter because u dont know who the dog will go to.
You shouldn’t get rid of him. He is your dog, and you should treat him with respect and keep him. It wouldn’t be right to get rid of him.
My ex and I have a dog together too. Ted has valley fever, which costs me about $1500 yearly to treat and follow up on. The valley fever has made his immune system to be compromised, and thusly he gets other infections frequently. I am in college, barely making it with the funds I have. Not just college, law school, so I have little free time. Actually, I have TWO dogs — both or which are active breeds who require plenty of exercise. I spend most of my time caring for my dogs; however, when I adopted my pets, I made a promise, and a commitment to care for them until the day they (or I) died. In fact, I have people lined up to care for my dogs in case I do die for some strange reason. I would never, ever, EVER give up my dogs, even if it meant living in a box on the side of the street, and I am not kidding. I agree with what other folks have said. You made a commitment. You adopted the dog, regardless of whether your ex was involved or not. It is your responsbility to care for that dog. When I was thinking about moving out of state for law school, I started screening for places to live right then and there; I am a realist. I know renting with large breed dogs is a challenge, but it’s part of owning animals. Lesson learned: be more careful about your decisions when they involve another life. And if this still does not convince you to live up to your responsbility, I implore you to find a breed rescue or no kill animal sanctuary that will take your dog. They may charge a small fee to take your dog, but he stands a much better chance of surviving to find a new family than if you dump him in a shelter.
… it sounds like you don’t like your dog that much… (i don’t like some dogs, neither. but, i don’t think i’d claim that i love them. =_=.) so why did you keep him in the first place?
if your ex wants it, let her have the dog. (chances are, that dog might live happier with someone else who actually loves him.
no hard feeling, but you really sound like you are not ready for a pet. >_<.
Bite the bullet and give him up for adoption.
bring the dog to one of them shelter places that ppl can adopt the dog cuz they make sure that you have a good home for it they make you give them all kinds of verfication about other pets and stuff like that
Have you considered asking the ex if he wants ownership of the dog?
I hope you realize how hard it will be to place a dog that has hip dysplasia. Have you talked to friends, about taking in the dog? Someone who actually knows & loves the dog is probably more likely to accept the dog into their homes.
I say you should give it away to someoe in ur city so you can visit once in a while. We got a golden lab named buster one time, and he was sooo lonely with his current owner and when we bought him he was the most playful dog you can meet i say u should give your dog a good home
If it were me, I’d suck it up and keep him. It’s a commitment, the dog is bonded to you, and to re-home him would place undue stress on him (not to mention possibly make his future very uncertain).
It’s not like it’s a commitment for the rest of your life. Dogs only live to be 10-15 years old. If you can do him the favor of being there for him and taking care of him for the rest of his life (which may be somewhat shortened- dysplastic dogs get worse with age and often have to be put down due to pain and suffering) it will be better for him.
If you do decide to give him up, please make sure it is to a no-kill shelter OR a breed rescue group. Is he a purebred dog? If he’s purebred, there is a specific rescue group for darn near every breed out there. They will likely take him in as a foster, and find him an excellent home. The benefit of going with a rescue group vs. placing him yourself….is that the rescue group will put him in a temporary foster home where he can stay indefinitely, until he’s adopted…and they are armed with detailed applications, volunteers who do home-visits and followup visits to make sure the adopter is an ideal candidate for the dog, and they *insist* (with legally binding contracts) that if the owner should become unable to keep the dog, he MUST return to Rescue, not get dumped in a shelter or sold to a 3rd party.
If he’s a purebred dog (or an obvious mix of a couple breeds) do a Google search for his breed + “rescue”….you are sure to come up with something. Also do a Google for your state/town + “rescue”…..most states have quite a few all-breed rescue organizations who might have a space for him.
you should find a good home for your dog. if you are even considering getting rid of it for the reasons that you’re thinking of – the fact that money’s an issue, and that you probably won’t be able to take care of it because of your job and its exercise requirements – you should give it to somebody who will want it and be able to take care of it.
it’s easy to find people. i myself know 3 families looking for a great dog. just find people that you know will take good care of it.
If you cannot provide for the dog properly, then he would be better off in another home.
Does the ex want the dog? Will he take care of it?